Alessandra de Rossi done with fake adult friendships: ‘Napagod na ako’

With so much going on in the country and in Filipinos’ personal lives, is it becoming increasingly difficult to form genuine adult friendships?

This topic has been widely discussed and triggered online since actress Alessandra de Rossi emotionally opened up to ABS-CBN anchor Bernadette Sembrano on YouTube in January 2026.

Months after the viral YouTube interview, de Rossi recently spoke with ABS-CBN News about her mental state in terms of the realities of making genuine connections and why she is no longer pursuing them.

Sharing her personal encounters with friends who were not sincere, de Rossi told ABS-CBN News, “Kung gusto nila ng sosyal na life na puro post lang pero walang laman ‘yung buong pagkikita n’yo, na parang sayang lang ‘yung buong araw mo na wala kayong ibang ginawa kundi mag-picture at [ipakita] na maganda ang gamit mo, ayaw ko na.”

“Ayaw ko na. Mas gusto ko lang ‘yung simpleng tao lang na kausap na pupunta ‘yung usapan tungkol sa life, how we can handle life better. instead of ‘I want to have this, I want to have that, I want to own this, and I will post it.’ Napagod na ako,” de Rossi vulnerably added.

Admitting to ABS-CBN News that she had previously been used for social media posts by some of her friends, she continued, “‘Yung [ibang] friends ko, kinaibigan lang ako for the photos. Gets mo? ‘Yung mga ganoon na para mai-post lang pero walang laman [ang pag-uusap at pagkikita]. Hindi pala kami close. ‘Yung friendship namin na sobrang tagal na, wala palang ibig sabihin ‘yun.”

Saying she is done with insincere friendships, she added, “Ang dami kong natutunan about life, psychology, trauma, mga ganyan. Alam mo ‘yung gusto mong may kabatuhan ka [tungkol sa mahahalagang bagay]. Kaya lang kapag kinausap mo ‘yung iba, Kardashians ang topic. Ayaw ko na.”

De Rossi, who is currently promoting her film “Status: Rejected” with lead star Ruby Ruiz, has realized that having pure intentions does not attract people with the same sincerity — as some of them are simply a red flag.

“Kahit gaano ka ka-true, may mga tao sa paligid mo na hindi ‘yun ang intentions. Ako, pure ang intentions ko, so dapat lahat ng maa-attract ko ay pure, ‘di ba? Pero [hindi ganoon ang nangyari]. Hindi siya totoo,” she told ABS-CBN News.

Her advice: “Just be true to yourself. Darating ang tamang tao para sa’yo. Open your eyes. Once you see a red flag, ‘yun na ‘yun. Tama na ‘yung hope na ‘benefit of the doubt.’”

Meanwhile, “Status: Rejected,” a film that won the Cinemalaya NETPAC Award and Best Actress for its lead Ruby Ruiz, will be released nationwide on November 18.

The film, directed by Vahn Leinard Pascual and produced by Clever Minds Inc. and Black Cap Pictures, also stars Beverly Salviejo and Yani Villarosa.