How to protect marriage during hard times

Credit to Author: Tempo Desk| Date: Wed, 08 May 2019 12:11:04 +0000

 

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DID you go through any finan­cial challenges in your family? I’m sure we all did.

Trying times in marriage is inevi­table. And one common issue that can shake a married couple’s rela­tionship is a money-related one.

You know how the older folks remind younger couples about love flying out of the window when there’s no money? I bet every couple who have had money prob­lems found themselves agreeing to that reminder.

But regardless of how challenging your money problem may be, it is still important to remind yourself that this is all part of marriage and life in general. The question is, are you willing to work with your spouse in order to win over this challenge?

Here are five things you can do to protect your marriage during trying economic times:

  1. APPROACH MONEY PROBLEMS AS A TEAM

Facing money problems in our marriage can be very draining and sometimes, discouraging. But fac­ing these problems with the assur­ance that our spouse is with us, we feel more secure and safe.

The assurance of having each other’s back can totally change the way you deal with the problem. Yes, money issues are tough but nothing is too tough for two people who choose to fight alongside each other.

  1. 2. GET RID OF THE BLAME GAME

One thing that never works in marriage is the blame game. It simply gets you nowhere! While it’s true that some problems can be attributed to the wrong decision or move made by either the husband or the wife, the solution to that error is never achieved by pointing fingers at each other.

So get rid of it. Accept the cir­cumstance and move forward and just drop the blame card.

  1. PRACTICE OPEN COMMUNICA­TION WITH YOUR SPOUSE

We all know that one key ingre­dient to a successful marriage is communication. And guess what? It is also the number one problem-solving strategy!

But the chances of having a non-therapeutic communication becomes higher during tough eco­nomic times because we simply want to express the frustration and disappointment in whatever way we can, even if that means shout­ing at the top of our lungs – and the only way we can avoid this from happening is by practicing open communication.

Allowing each other to vent out the emotions and listening with understanding. You’ll be surprised on how effective open communica­tion can be during difficult times in your marriage.

  1. AGREE TO TAKE ACTIONS ABOUT THE PROBLEM TOGETHER

Because couples are wired uniquely from each other, chances are, they can also have different personal solutions and suggestions about the money problems. But agreeing on a course of action deliv­ers the clarity of reason needed in finding a solution for the problem.

Therefore, it is always best to agree on the same solution even if that means compromising some of your personal ones, after all, this is a team effort, so your spouse’s proposition also has a say.

  1. AVOID SELF-PITY AT ALL COSTS

Feeling sorry for your situation or yourself has never provided solu­tions to money-related problems. In fact, self-pity only worsens the problem because it takes away your confidence and it diminishes your hope of winning over the financial challenges.

So when you feel like you’re heading down that road of feeling sorry for your circumstance, talk to your spouse and gather strength and encouragement from each other, instead.

Times occasionally get challeng­ing and difficult in marriage but the bottom line is, if you have a trusting and loving relationship with your spouse, you’ll get through the worst! The economic problem will come to pass but your love for each other will be there to sustain you until the end.

THINK. REFLECT. APPLY.

Recall a time when you and your spouse had a money-related prob­lem. How did you overcome the challenge? Why is it important to remind each other about teamwork in marriage? Among the five things suggested above, which one do you think you need to work on the most as a couple? Why?

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